23 January 2022


We’ve been discussing Self-value for two weeks now and I have to say, I personally have learnt a lot. We previously talked about three different types of Self-value all humans should uphold then we moved to how having a high self-value is beneficial in our daily lives. If you haven’t gone through those articles, simply click on any of the links below;



After all that has being said so far, we’ll be moving into how we can develop the mindset of someone with a high self-value…

The mind is the most powerful part of every human, our thought patterns basically controls our lives as a whole because the bible already told us that “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he [in behavior—one who manipulates]” – Proverbs 23:7 [AMP]. The lives of every person on planet earth is ruled by the kind of mindset he/she carries that’s why we always here “If you want to be successful in life, you have to develop a successful mindset first”.

Now let’s see how one can have the mindset of a person with high self-value:

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  • Identify & Challenge All Negative Thought Beliefs;
  • Remind yourself that your bank account, job title, attractiveness, and social media following have nothing to do with how valuable or worthy a person you are.
  • Always tell yourself “No matter what I’ve done or haven’t done, I am worthy of love”.
  • Take responsibility for your mistakes, not by criticizing or sabotaging yourself but by admitting that you did a wrong thing and it was a mistake that’ll never happen again.
  • Make an effort to take a step back and think about what truly matters when determining people’s worth: their kindness, compassion, empathy, respect for others, and how well they treat those around them.
  • When to have negative thoughts about who you are, look for evidence that contradicts those statements. Write down them down and keep looking back at it to remind yourself that your negative beliefs about yourself are not true.
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  • Focus On Your Positive Attributes;
  • Be confident and take pride in your achievements, but show grace and humility, too.
  • It’s good to have a journal where you write down positive things about yourself, it’ll help you to always remember them.
  • When your inner critic begins to whisper negative words about who you are, challenge those statements by looking at all your positive attributes and saying them to yourself as much times as possible.
  • Always do your best in thinking positive about yourself, it’ll go a long way in building your self-value.
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  • Build Positive Relationships;
  • Don’t set unrealistic standards for those who should/can be your friends.
  • Take time out to build trust by talking with others, genuinely listen, ask questions and share information.
  • Develop mutual respect by working with your friends and being dependable.
  • When you have any misunderstanding, try not to play the blame game and settle it by talking calmly and taking responsibility for mistakes.
  • Don’t always force your opinions on other persons, accept other’s opinions and work towards reaching an equally agreed decision.
  • Be positive and appreciate others as much as possible.
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  • Discard Negative Friends;
  • Decide that you deserve better relationships in your life.
  • Take your time to identify those who are toxic around you.
  • When confronting negative people, don’t sugarcoat anything just tell them straight up that they’re being negative (just don’t be rude).
  • Establish boundaries with them and if they don’t respect your boundaries, cut them off completely.
  • Learn not to bring them up again, remind yourself why you did what you did and don’t feel guilty about it.
  • As always, focus on the positive.
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  • Be More Firm In Your Decisions;
  • Don’t be overconfident, recognize that you still have a lot to learn and seek out information with humility and an open mind.
  • Don’t get accustomed to bad habits; they may prevent you from making standard decisions.
  • Don’t be “Bias” in decision making; find out the facts so you’ll have a clear and open mind to make decisions with clarity.
  • Don’t rush into making any decision; take your time in carrying out analysis.
  • When faced with a problem, look at it from different angles. Step outside your normal patterns of thinking and come up with some truly innovative solutions.
  • Avoid overthinking so as not to stress your brain.
  • Talk to someone you can trust, to get a bit of feedback or extra help in solving a problem.
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  • Take a Vacation When You Need To;
  • You get to relieve yourself of stress thereby improving your mental and physical health.
  • Greater well-being and prevents any form of heart disease.
  • Mental motivation and focus is increased.
  • Strengthened relationships and a happier state of being.
  • Decreases burnout {a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress} and increases productivity.
  • Drastically reduces sleepless nights.

Even with the fact that moving from having a low self-value mindset to building/developing that of high self-value is not an easy journey/process, always keep it in mind that with regular effort you can start to feel more positive and build a high self-value mindset as you go.

Always remember “I can do all things [which He has called me to do] through Him who strengthens and empowers me [to fulfill His purpose—I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency; I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him who infuses me with inner strength and confident peace.] – Philippians 4:13 [AMP]”

Some Scriptures To Keep In Mind When On The Journey Of Developing Self-Value;

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not be terrified or dismayed (intimidated), for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. – Joshua 1:9 [AMP]”

“For the Lord will be your confidence, firm and strong, and will keep your foot from being caught [in a trap]. – Proverbs 3:26 [AMP]”

“With him there is only an arm of flesh, but with us is the Lord our God to help us and to fight our battles.” And the people relied on the words of Hezekiah king of Judah. – 2 Chronicles 32:8 [AMP]”

“And the effect of righteousness will be peace, and the result of righteousness will be quietness and confident trust forever. – Isaiah 32:17 [AMP]”

But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] will gain new strength and renew their power; they will lift up their wings [and rise up close to God] like eagles [rising toward the sun]; they will run and not become weary, they will walk and not grow tired. – Isaiah 40:31 [AMP]”

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