19 October 2021


A lot of us often find ourselves asking “What is my purpose, my passion?” “What was I born to do?” “Is this really the kind of life I desire to live?” some might even ask “Why was I even born at all?” Having the knowledge of who we are, what makes us happy and why, is something everyone on this planet craves for. We all desire to get to know and thoroughly understand the functionality of who we are physically, spiritually, mentally, physiologically and so on. Well here are some ways we can achieve that goal of self-exploration:


Your ideal self is who you’re wanting to become, an ideal future version of you that encompasses your personality, beliefs, values and behavior under various conditions; the person you’re striving to become. Figuring out what you want your ideal self to look like involves:

  • Making Your “Life list”:

Write down every single one of your wants and desires then categories them into the possible, impossible, present and future.

  • Checking For Your Strengths and Weaknesses:

Once you’re done with your life list, do an honest assessment of all that’s wrong and blissful in your life. Get to know areas where you stand tall and the once you fall short in your life.

  • Having Faith in Yourself:

Much of growing and abundance in life is based on faith. Now that you’ve ascertained how your life is and how you want it to be, you have to strongly believe that you’re capable of achieving your goal no matter what anyone says about it.


Passion means having a strong or extravagant fondness, enthusiasm or desire for something. An extreme interest in or wish for doing something such as a hobby, activity etc. One’s passion can be found by;

  • Brainstorming The Activities You Find Fulfilling and Meaningful:

Take time to think and write down the regular activities you already participate in. Pay special attention to activities that make you lose track of time cause that means you’re enjoying them.

  • Writing Down Values That are Important To You:

Values are principles or standards of behavior, one’s judgment of what is important in life (Hobbies, career, activities etc.). Finding something that aligns with your values will make you feel happier and more fulfilled.

  • Considering Your Talents:

Talent is a natural or special ability to be good at something, especially without being taught. If you’re naturally good at something or find yourself working hard to develop a skill set, it may mean that you’re actually passionate about it.

  • Considering and Developing New Interest by Following a C.L.E.A.R path:

C.L.E.A.R stands for;

C- Curious (Eager to know or learn something)

L- Learning (Acquiring knowledge or skills through study, experience or being taught)

E- Enthusiasm (Intense and eager enjoyment, interest or approval)

A- Aware (Having knowledge or perception of a situation or fact)

R- Recognizing (Identify something from having encountered them before)

Once you’re “curious” about something, you’ll start “learning” about it then as you get more “enthusiastic”, you’ll become more “aware” before people will start “recognizing” your passion because it’ll stand out.


This can be a tricky one because it means doing things that you are not familiar with, things outside your daily or weekly routine but it also means working towards being spontaneous and that’s not a bad thing, right? First:

  • Get Rid of Any Limiting Beliefs:

Beliefs are acceptance that something exists or is true, with or without proofs. Limiting or negative beliefs can stop you from doing certain things as we normally put ourselves down. Try to locate any of such beliefs and start to learn to ignore them then push yourself out of your comfort zone.

  • Try and Make Immediate Plans:

This may seem difficult at first but you can start living in the present and spend less time planning to do things you could be doing now but putting them off and you may be surprised with the outcome.

  • Start Listening to Your Gut or Intuition:

Intuition means the ability to understand something instinctively or immediately without the need for conscious reasoning. If you learn to ignore the doubt that pops up and just listen to that feeling you get without even thinking about it. Perhaps being invited to go on an adventure and your gut says you should do it, before the doubt creeps in just go for it.

  • Start Small:

When trying new things, you don’t have to go all out by beginning to travel the world (it might not be possible for most people), it’s ok to just start with something small “attend that event you’ve being invited to, visit that friend or relation you’ve not seen for a while, take little time out to go on a small personal adventure. Always remember that “little drops of water make a mighty ocean” (Little Things, poem by Julia Carney).

  • Create a “To-Do” List:

Sit down and write your ideas, you could even ask your friends and family for some help, it could help with any questions you might have about what exactly you want to do.


Identifying and understanding your skills, abilities and personal qualities. As part of your self-discovery journey, you might consider taking some time to consider your unique abilities and how to use them positively and effectively. You can do this by:

  • Reflecting On Yourself:

Keep in mind that talents or skills come in all shapes and sizes and extend into many areas of life, open your mind to the possibilities. Look at the things that you’ve done, things you’ve enjoyed (things that make you happy can also reveal your talents), times you really excelled, times you’ve been challenged, tough situations you’ve had to deal with (times of trial can often reveal your hidden skills), stuffs that you’re good at, times you were successful and write down the story of your life.

  • Find What Makes You Feel Strong:

Try to identify those moments when you have a sense of ease, you know that you have the answer or are capable of finding the answer, times when you feel your strongest and create more opportunities to feel that way.

  • Find What You Spend The Most Money On:

When you follow up on the record of what you mostly put your money into, you’ll discover what you value and chances are you have a knack (an acquired or natural skill at doing something) for what we value.

  • Ask Your Friends About Your Best And Worst Qualities:

The great thing about asking your trusted friends about your qualities is that there must be something or some things they’ll all say about you. It’s enlightening to hear different people see you in the same light and this is definitely an indicator of talent.

  • Ask Family Members What You Loved As A Child:

Sometimes the people who have known us the longest are the once who know us the best. Take a recollection of the things you loved as a kid as hints to get busy with identifying the stuffs you naturally enjoy doing.


Picking up the habit of journaling (or even blogging) can help you get back in touch with yourself and learn more about the person you’ve become. Let your thoughts flow onto a few pages every morning and walk away from them for the rest of the day. Come back after a week and re-read your pages, you’ll notice a lot of your thoughts circle back to one main idea. This might usually be a talent or desire. A journal can serve as a tool through which you can ask yourself questions and search for hidden answers.

What The Bible Says About Self-discovery:

Job 42:2 [AMP] – I know that you can do all things, and that no thought or purpose of yours can be restrained or thwarted.”

“Proverbs 20:5 [AMP] – Counsel in the heart of man is like water in a deep well, but a man of understanding draws it out.”

“1 Peter 2:9 [AMP] – But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a dedicated nation, {God’s} own purchased, special people, that you may set forth the wonderful deeds and display the virtues and perfections of Him Who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.”

“Romans 12:2 [AMP] – Do not be conformed to this world (this age), (fashioned after and adopted to its external, superficial customs), but be transformed (changed) by the (entire) renewal of your mind (by its new ideals and its new attitude), so that you may prove (for yourselves) what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect (in His sight for you).”

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This Blog was created to help contain and subdue the ongoing increase in depression and suicidal thought pattern happening mostly among youths in our world today. A lot of us are quick to compare our lives with that of those around us thereby ignoring and undermining our own uniqueness. We want to let you know that no matter how different or weird you think you are, you are special both on the inside and on the outside.

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